Too true pepperpod.
Texasgirl, don't go and jump into a relationship, 14 months is not a long time. I'm sure that whatever issues your relationship with XAH has raised in you/ones that were already there won't have been worked through that easily.
Protect yourself from engaging in another potentially co-dependant relationship by ensuring you are fully healed.
Realise that until you are completely happy functioning without another being to support you, you will not be able to give fully of yourself.