I came to SR only a few months after I kicked my husband out of the house. I remember reading posts like yours and thinking--geez, do I have to wait 2 or 3 years to get better. I want to get better now! It takes what it takes and the last two years have flown by for me.
I remember reading your posts when I first came here and thinking, I don't know what to say to this guy. He seeems so confused.
So I didn't say much of anything. You were confused and enmeshed at the same time I was. Now we are better. Not perfect, but better.
Here's to ya, Mr. C. You know how to say the most with the fewest words, and I love ya for that.
L