Hi Jungled...welcome.There is so much to learn and to share on this site. I hope it gives you the tools you need to answer such questions. To me, I learned the answer is within...if I am feeling stressed, and anxious and I am sneaking around and going through stuff and have that rock in my stomach...well soemthing is wrong and I am in a very, very dark place. It was only once I started working on me, that I gained the tools I needed to do what i need to do for me with addiction in my life.
Keep reading and sharing...Have you tried any Alanon meetings? it all truly helps