This IS the right place. There is much to learn, and a bunch of us together learning about all the different facets of addiction.
Perhaps you could start with the "sticky" posts at the top of this forum? Some excellent reading includes: "Codependent No More" by Melodie Beattie, also "Under the Influence" by Milam and Ketchum.
Open AA meetings helped me to have hope when things seemed the most hopeless. It was good for me to hear the stories of recovery, especially when the ones I loved were not working recovery themselves.
I also listened to AA and Alanon "speaker tapes" and cds. These are available online, just type AA speaker tape into a good search engine like Google. I played them in the car when I drove around.
The thing that helped me the most? Alanon meetings. And not just a few... a lot of them. I had no idea what part I played in the dance of addiction. My part in it was far larger than I ever imagined.
I wish you well. (((hugs)))