I think you're talking about a character defect that I bet is pretty common in most of us here ... looking somehwere else except at ourselves.
Yep, that's why I go to meetings because they remind to get the focus back on me. And that doesn't necessarily mean I'm having to look at character defects all the time. Lots of times I need to look at myself and realize I do have a lot to offer. I think I tend to focus on the bad or the areas where I feel like I come up short. But lately, I've been reminded to realize the worth I do have. You know, I like that!