I'm not certain if I am in the right place or not. All of you seem to have more experience with dealing with an addict than I do, but I'm learning fast. My financee is an recovering addict. He used before we got together and was sober when we met. This past year was my first experience with the drama that seemed to come out of nowhere.
I suppose i denied it longer than I should and of course I felt like we were strong enough to get through it (my fault). This seemed to go down hill really fast and before i realized the only feeling i had left was anger, resentment and a whole lot of disappointment. I must be honest to say those feeling were equally split between him and myself.
Now that he is finally after so many years admitted that he as a problem he is seeking treatment. My concern is that the feeling i have are so strong and deep rooted in hurt, that we can't even have a conversation about simple things.
How do I begin to put the puzzle back together?
How do you forgive the anger?
What I do to help him and me.
