GNS,
None of us really know another person's situations... that's why we do better when we share our experience, strength and hope. (ESH) When I first got to Al Anon, I didn't understand why others didn't just tell me what to do. I was nearly incapable of making a decision for myself! In time, I learned to listen to what others were sharing... in Al Anon they say "take what you like and leave the rest". Ultimately, I gained enough self confidence and new knowledge to make some important changes in my life. I learned that I was ready when I was ready, and not a moment sooner.
Hugs
Cats