Sometimes I would read a response on a thread that offered insight on a problem I was experiencing that would not sit quite right.
When that happened, I thought about why it was bothering me so much. The one comment that was a real eye-opening and turning pont for me (and struck me hard) was that the best way to deal with resentment towards XABF was to do Step 4.
Through Step 4 I discovered that yes, I had ownership in the drama I experienced on a daily basis. I chose to live in it, wrap myself in it like a blanket. I chose to give more to others than what I could afford, which left nothing for myself. MY life was nuts, a tornado - and I was walking toward the funnel cloud. Once I realized what I was doing and I could still love XABF and wish him well under clear skies - I walked the other way.