I saw your thread about your mother Wascally Wabbit. I thought it sounded similar too. My family went through a similar situation with my grandmother. An assisted living center worked out real well for her. She made a group of friends and her own place and such. She even got to the point where she would tell us when was a good time to come because she had other things planned with her friends. Having a focus outside of her kids did her and us a world of good. Hope you can find a good compromise.