Well, if you really feel like you need to "define" it, I think you've just described someone who is addicted:
Originally Posted by
sheshe555 
the inability to stop once he starts: there is no 'couple of beers' with him. He may mean well when he heads out - but its like once he gets a few in him his brain stops participating & his hands automatically keep feeding his mouth alcohol. Also, the bars closing doesn't always mean the nights over... it means grabbing beer at the gas station & drinking till 7 or 8 in the morning. And yes if its Sunday football night he will miss work the next day or be late.
And someone who is codependent:
Originally Posted by
sheshe555 You're right I do need to focus on myself more but I'm having a very difficult time of thinking of myself regardless of him because I've gotten so used to associating everything I think, do, see, etc with him.
Honestly I feel like I'm the one who's lost.
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