I consider my situation to have ended positively, but he had to quit. Had he tried to control it, it never would have worked. Had I tried to control it, it never would have worked either! There has to be a bottom, and if his life is good 95% of the time, that might not happen soon. It could just continue to go downhill...85%.....75%, til there really is a bottom and you progressively suffer, more and more.....
I was in an Al Anon meeting recently where somone talked about the analogy of the frog and the pot....If you put a frog in a pot of cold water, put it on the stove and heat it up until it boils, the frog will stay in the water until it is cooked to death. But if you drop a frog into a pot of boiling water, it will jump out immediately (although, I'm sure, a little scathed!). I wouldn't want you to be the first frog....