Originally Posted by
denny57 
Bottom line is it doesn't matter if he is an alcoholic or not. What matters is are YOU living the life you want?
Your BF sounds like my husband 20 years ago, too, including the incidents you describe. Over those years, it went from bad to worse to divorce. Like LTD, I sometimes wish I had those years back.
Edit: I just read your reply - I can relate even more, as you sound exactly as I did all those years ago. Today my life is joyous - because I am not concentrating on someone else's behaviors, no matter how fun he might have been (less so as the years went by) or the hurt I saw in his eyes.
Thank you denny.. and everyone else I'm sorry if I sound defensive, but I felt like your anger and resentment was being directed as an attack on me when all I really expected is some type of motivational words as denny provides here.
Denny - yes and no, 95% of the time I'm happy with the life I have. It's those few times here and there that his drinking bothers me that I am not happy... so I'm not quite sure where that leaves me if that makes sense.
Maybe I am fooling myself, and as Jazzman pointed out it is very possible... but it really is just 5% or so of the time that this is a problem. I understand queenteree said that 95% will go to 85% etc - but is it wrong of me to feel like I can't justify giving up just yet if there is so much more good than bad?
Has anyone recovered from a situation like this at all? Has anyone had a control vs quit situation that ended positively?
Everyone.. thanks again, really.