Originally Posted by
sheshe555 
so before anyone tries to convince me I'm wasting my time please note that the scare tactics aren't going to work on me...
I'm sorry you feel that sharing the story of what happened in my life is a scare tactic. I know how you feel. Your relationship is different. The love you have for each other is different. Just because it gets progressively worse for others doesn't mean it will for you (or him). I know exactly how you feel because I once felt the same way.
The best thing you can do is learn. Learn about addiction, learn about enabling and codependence. Most of all learn about yourself and what drives you. I didn't just randomly happen to fall madly in love with an alcoholic. In a way it was destined, like pieces of a puzzle that fit perfectly together.
I'm just starting to learn about myself and what I want my life to look like. It's the best thing I've ever done for myself.
L