Welcome to SR sheshe, glad you're here!
Try to read the stickys here first. Al-Anon meetings and open AA meetings will help you learn all you can.
Bottom line is it doesn't matter if he is an alcoholic or not. What matters is are YOU living the life you want?
Your BF sounds like my husband 20 years ago, too, including the incidents you describe. Over those years, it went from bad to worse to divorce. Like LTD, I sometimes wish I had those years back.
Edit: I just read your reply - I can relate even more, as you sound exactly as I did all those years ago. Today my life is joyous - because I am not concentrating on someone else's behaviors, no matter how fun he might have been (less so as the years went by) or the hurt I saw in his eyes.
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