You just described my marriage about 20 years ago. My husband was always the "fun guy." Everybody liked him and he would go out of his way to be the good guy to his friends. For me, it got a lot worse, never better. I often wondered if the reason I got all the emotional and verbal abuse later on was because he had no where else to go with it. After all, he couldn't be angry with his friends, now, could he? I'm now 45, a single mom of a 15yo daughter and 10yo son, and sometimes I wish I could have all those years back.................
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