Hi MG
My A has told me many times he was going to kill himself, he has never done it. It may be a guilt trip, it may not be. I honestly don't know. If he does need a hospital, there is nothing stopping him from going there. My A has always been able to get to places (he doesn't drive,dui, whole other story) when he wanted to get high and when he was ready to get help seriously, he always managed to cooridinate that and I would give him a ride then, but only when it was all figured out.
I hope things work out, I truly do. I am praying for you all.
Love,
Debbie
Its up to you what you want to do