marriage counselling
We have been in counselling for awhile now, but up until today it had been, like you said, bitter and acrimonious. Additionally, my spouse was not wanting to open up and try to make progress. Now I know why.
But today's session was very good. Our counselor was surprised to hear the whole story (she did not know of the affair) and happy that we have now both committed to change things. I can forgive the affair as a foolish mistake and I hope my wife can forgive my past overwork and neglect of family also.
There is a very long ways to go still, but it's a start.
I do have one pressing question for both the men and women of the forum. It seems to me that women get a free pass on an affair if they feel neglected, while men that have affairs are treated much more harshly. Is this an uneven playing field or is it my imagination?