I've made some calls about it. Looks like I have to call adult protective services. And then they might send someone out. Yeah I'm not accepting th role as chosen one anymore. I've given and given and its never made anything better. I knew I needed to say no. This time its no. No to the flying. I haven't spoken to her again since our no flying discussion. I'm really frustrated. I just think I've reached my limit on feeling guilty. I'm finally pulling my life together and I'm just not willing to give it up again. I noticed after the leukemia news and fighting with the idea to loan her money and let her fly I started loosing weight again, feeling physically unwell, and emotionally out of wack. I can't do this to myself anymore. I think part of this is a reaction to her feeling me pull away and start to put my life together independent of her. And I'm not going to get sucked bback in again! Thanks for all the support. ::hugs::