I think you are doing very well under the circumstances...<<patting you on the back>>. You have noted that he isn't going to change ...he evidently likes the lifestyle he is living and he feels that should be acceptable. I think the most painful part of this process is allowing ourselves to be wheeled in over and over with empty promises that never materialize. We want so bad to beleive it will work itself out but very seldom does. There is nothing worse then hearing I love you and I will never do it again only to watch them go into the bathroom to..umm...do it again! Keep your head up and make the decission that are right for YOU.