Hi Galnva. I cried when I read your initial post because you described my own situation, only with reversed roles. My boyfriend is the one who is backing off and I don't know how to handle it. Why is it that loving someone and accepting them, warts and all, frightens them to the point of turning away? I just don't understand it. I feel that I may as well be the biggest bitch on the face of the earth as the result would be the same. Sorry, no advice, just feeling sad and confused.