I was just sitting outside and started thinking about boundaries. I came back here and saw Pernells post. I used to be a love addict and now I have become a love avoidant. Boundaries are a key issue with me now, but I feel that it is very very important for me to learn to love and care for myself before I even begin to try and establish boundaries. If I tried to have boundaries first, I would be forcing the boundaries, when inside I would want to dive right in head first to get my needs met. I think a lot of the pain I have been having stems from avoiding love right now. I realized that I'm even avoiding love from my HP. I don't think taking a risk now is the answer either. That would just lead back to addiction. I have a lot of work to do it seems.
MG
P.S. Galnva, your post helped me so much. I hope you got the answers you needed too. Thank you
[This message has been edited by Morning Glory (edited April 21, 2002).]