ICU, I agree w/you that he likely already developed his way of thinking long ago, but I was thinking along the lines of LaTeeDa's comment...ajangels2 doesn't have to go along with his way of thinking...by putting up with his crap, or backing down to avoid his escalating behavior.
Lately, I've realized how much I have been working on my own self respect: I try to never allow my AH bully me into hushing my thoughts or emotions just to avoid a heated discussion or escalating incident. My thoughts & feelings are important and I have an obligation to my self respect to assert them.