Originally Posted by
Aquarian 
I feel if he is not committed to being well emotionally, he is not committed to our relationship. I cannot see it any other way. I feel sad and resentful.
I don't think an active A can be committed to a relationship. The alcohol and the power it has over the A prevents that. I know that although my AH is apparently still white knuckling it (with at least some lapses into drinking) there is no way he is capable of being in our marriage. Not that I want that anymore anyway. He is too busy holding on to the edge to be anything to anyone, including his children.