I remember when my kids started program, and just didn't do it the "right" way! They went to meetings whenever and didn't have a sponsor and weren't working the steps... grrrr.
Then the woman who would eventually be my sponsor asked ME how many of those things *I* was doing in *my* recovery! I was going to meetings.... but only once a week (I thought the kids needed to go at least 3 times a week). I didn't have a sponsor and was not actively working the steps.
So... I set out to do those things (in part, to "show" by example a good way to work a program).
You can guess what happened... I focused so much on me, that I forgot to focus on how THEY worked THEIR program!
Sheesh...
