Addiction is a progressive disease that gets worse over time. It will leave you emotionally, spiritually, physically and financially in ruins if you decide to take this walk into hell with him.
How do I know this? My son is an addict and although the relationship is different, the addiction and what it does is not. He is doing what addicts do. This was written by Jon, the founder of SoberRecovery and a recovering addict himself....
What Addicts Do
My name's Jon. I'm an addict. And this is what addicts do. You cannot nor will not change my behavior. You cannot make me treat you better, let alone with any respect. All I care about, all I think about, is my needs and how to go about fufilling them. You are a tool to me, something to use. When I say I love you I am lying through my teeth, because love is impossible for someone in active addiction. I wouldn't be using if I loved myself, and since I don't, I cannot love you.
My feelings are so pushed down and numbed by my drugs that I could be considered sociopathic. I have no empathy for you or anyone else. It doesn't faze me that I hurt you, leave you hungry, lie to you, cheat on you and steal from you.
My behavior cannot and will not change until i make a decison to stop using/drinking and then follow it up with a plan of action.
And until I make that decsion, I will hurt you again and again and again.
Stop being surprised.
I am an addict. And that's what addicts do.
This may seem like a harsh post and I promise you it is made with love in my heart, because I care enough to tell you straight up what you have in store for the rest of your life and only you can choose if this is how you want to live.
How did I find my sanity again? I went to meetings, lots of meetings, found a sponsor and learned to work 12 steps of recovery that save my life, literally.
I know it hurts right now, but it doesn't have to hurt forever. You can begin today by making a commitment to yourself to find a better way of living. You have already taken a huge step by reaching out.
Just know we care and we are walking with you.
Hugs