Thank you JLW.. I have been planning to go to meetings, but have not been able to make it yet.. It is on the back burner for now, hopefully to move to the front burner ...
Anyway, for me, the neighbor thing is a non issue now. He betrayed me (I think) and I want nothing more to do with him. It is getting easier now. Even if we do somehow come to an agreement, things will never be the same.
I have enough problems in my life to continue to dwell on this one..