Originally Posted by
catsmeow 
I want him to hear what I am saying and the boudaries that I am trying to set.
I've learned I can only say what I have to say and leave it at that. I have no control over whether anyone hears me or not. Boundaries are for me alone. I state them once and then live my life. It takes practice, but it does get easier over time. The next thing I knew, I was living the life I wanted on my terms. It's wonderful.
Good luck.