Yes, Mine is definitely capable of all the things you listed.
The worst is the lack of empathy, the inflated sense of self is pretty bad, too.
AlAnon WILL help you step outside of the dark box you are in. WHen you hear people saying the very thoughts that you have about your own life, in relation to theirs and their A, it is very freeing.
I am in the midst of No Contact, and we have a son. The child is the main issue for me right now. Even though my A pays no support, and was never able to live with us at all...I still feel guilty taking the child out of his life, but I realize that my son will only suffer if I dont make some boundaries.