Are the behaviors characteristic of an A, you ask?
HELL YES!!!
It is a selfish disease -- lying, manipulating, uncaring. It makes the A a total slave. Don't become a slave, too.
He says there is no problem. He's trying to convince himself. DENIAL -- the ultimate symptom of alcoholism. The one that is most frustrating. Go to Alanon, learn for yourself and for your boys, and let A decide on his own what he needs to do.
**HUGS**