Originally Posted by
Lucy06 
- total disregard for the consequences of his drinking on "loved" ones.
Yup!
Originally Posted by
Lucy06 - total lack of empathy to others' feelings
OMG, yes!!
Originally Posted by
Lucy06 - inflated sense of self :"I am so special"
Not so much as the lack of empathy etc..but sometimes yes...more so when talking about other A's...he feels he's not like the others because he's intelligent, because he "wouldn't get that bad".
Originally Posted by
Lucy06 - paranoia:"you are having an affair"
Paranoia, yup! Not so much about me having an affair, but stuff like I'm checking up on him when I'm not...or this one's funny...Last week I was playing a song by TLC called "Unpretty"...and he asked if I was trying to tell him something?! He'd listened to the lyrics and attributed them to me and thought I was having a dig at him via a song...I swear it was just part of the album I was listening to...ended up turning the music off, not worth the hassle!
Originally Posted by
Lucy06 - It's always someone else's fault if he is drinking too much.
Not really, he's pretty much got it down to blaming himself for everything.
Originally Posted by
Lucy06 - lack of motivation to do anything apart from drinking.
Yup! Nothing but drink, go to the shop to buy drink and watch tv.
I can relate with the lying too...it drives me mad...But like LaTeeDa says, what's the point in trying to figure him out...
You know that his drinking is not your fault, right?
You know that you are NOT the homebreaker?
If you leave it will be because you could not live with HIS actions...and by the sounds of it you've put up with alot!