Hi Ray, often times I am tempted to do things for him to make his life easier because that's who I am - a caretaker. But I resist. I appreciate that the guy just got out of prison and is trying to make a new life. But I am have learned that before anything or anything else, I need to be honorable to myself and true to my feelings. Because if I don't, who will?
Kimmy~ You have a lot on your plate. If I could offer you any advice I would tell you to just take things one day at a time, and don't worry what might happen. It is overwhelming and depressing. You have no control over the situation with your father. And your brother is 17. Nearly an adult. So if you do end up taking him in, he will be old enough to legally be on his own soon, should you decide it's not working. Whatever you decide, don't take any cr@p from anyone ok. You'll be fine.
Hi and welcome Carol. Most important, take care of YOU. You can't help your lost son or anyone if you aren't healthy. Take care.