Thanks so much for the feedback...it's good to know that this type of thing comes up all over and is part of take what you need and leave the rest.
Cat, one thing I love about my group is how they do stick around after meetings to talk with newcomers and those in pain...There is a true feeling of welcome and caring.
I was a bit concerned because a couple of the veterans wanted to get quite rigid...I think that they have agreed for now to try the more gentle approach and the reminders about sharing at the opening of the meeting.
frankie..the preacher is my challenge for patience, lol. I have discovered that in general, no matter what the issue, I am much more compassionate with those who seem the underdog. I think i still have expectations I have to address with people i think should "know better." The preacher is one. But once I admitted that, i found the next meeting i had more patience and compassion for him...No wonder the steps work so well
