Thank you for sharing - it makes me feel so much better to know that I'm not alone in still caring for someone who I know is controlled more by the bottle than by love. I've taken my bf to two rehab centers only to have the same result when he comes home. Of course, it is always my fault. Each time he leaves, he says he is not coming back, but then the phone rings and "things will be different". The only difference in two years is that now I'm broke both financially and spiritually, and have learned the hard way that I cannot "help" him with his recovery, if recovery is possible for him.