Buffalo,
I think it can be summed up that enabling is 'helping' someone who doesn't want to be helped. If the addict expresses a true and sincere desire for help, then helping to some degree (not trying to do it for them) would probably be a good thing.
If you go and read the alcoholism board on this forum, I think you will find that most who get sober do it on their own. Because they had no other choice, except death. Personally, I think 'helping' is overrated. We all try to help people who don't want, or ask for our help. And we suffer because of it.
L