I'm sorry if that is how my post came across.
I've read hundreds of posts here on this board and have read very, very few, if any that talked about treatment. It left me confused and I asked honest questions.
Of course I don't have it all figured out. I wouldn't be headed for divorce if I did and be living separately.
I have no idea if my particular spouse is going to make it. None. I hope so but the outcome has nothing to do with me.
My sincere hope that is that someday soon the world of medicine and science will find viable treatments for the disease of addiction. It will no longer be a hidden shame, a secret or a hopeless situation. I predict in the next 10 years the focus in the treatment of alcoholism will drastically change. And it's about time.
It will start to be treated as a medical disease, not a weakness of character.
We as the family suffer but a true alcoholic suffers in ways we will never understand. We can go on and build new lives - but many of them stay stuck forever in the hell of an untreated disease. And many of those will die from it.
Until this world see addiction for what it is = we all remain stuck.