Boundaries
Wow! What great posts! You are absolutely right. Now that I'm coming off the first stages of being "in love", I'm starting to pay more attention to my needs. I've told him that I don't want to live with him if he is smoking. I also, told him I don't see a future with him if he continues. He said that he is contemplating quitting, but that he loves it. He also says that he had always imagined himself smoking into his 80's. I personally don't think this will happen, as his coughing is quite nasty.