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As some of you know my RAD & her RABF got an apartment together in aug. These two knew each other when they were younger. Josh was on PINS & then emancieted (his choice) when he was 15. I wouldn't let him in my house when my daughter was in 8th grade. I told her he wouldn't be a good influence & such. He moved away & we didn't see him again untill last year when my daughter was in the halfway house. He was there as well. He had hit his bottom. He had lost most of what he had owned, had no car, and was living in a hotel room. He decided he couldn't live like that anymore & signed himslef in for help.
Josh has over 1 year clean, and is a big inspiration to the people in our area. On his one year aniversery he invited my husband & I to his home group meeting. He brought the house down with his speech. It was amazing. He has since been asked to speek at some of the "big" NA meetings in the area. He truley has a gift & is willing to share that gift with others. He has been very good for my daughter and he loves her for her. He has seen her at her worst & he was there for her. When my daughter had her own apartment, her & Josh were together on & off. My daughters choice, she wasn't in a good place with herself. Josh had seen her nod off at a meeting. He was over at her appartment to spend the night because he was going to get his wisdom teeth extracted & my daughter was to drive him. That night he had found syringes in her appartment. She took him to his appointment & when he was done, she wasn't in the waiting room. So he went outside thinking she was having a cigarette. He walked over to the car & found her sticking a syringe in her arm with herion. She ended up going in for medical detox that week & Josh was there for her & she has been clean since. He has seen her at her worst & was there.
Well, the other day I was at BJ's wholsale getting some stuff for my youngest daughter who we just moved into an appartment for college this week. I saw a bundle of blank cd's with an $8 instant rebate. I called Josh to see if that was the kind he used. My husband & I had seen him a few days before & noticed he had lost a little bit of weight. We talked for a min & he said "I really need to come over this week & talk to you & John." In his voice he just sounded tired, not his bubbly self. I said Josh, are you ok? He said yes. I said are you clean? He said yes. I said is Mikaela ok? He said yes. I said is she clean? He said yes. Now I was getting very worried. I said are you going to kick her out of the appartment or something? He said no, he just had to talk to us. I said I am very worried, what is going on? He said Geeeze, your wrecking this for me, I was going to tell you & John I love Mikaela & would like to make things permanent. Yesterday he asked John & I for our blessing for asking my daughter to marry him. He has lost a bit of weight because he has been working his butt off to get her a ring. He got it, & is going to take her up to these falls they love that is like in the middle of nowere for a picnic & to ask her to be his wife. I can't tell you how happy we are & how much we love him.
Ya know alot of mothers have the dream of their daughter marrying a Dr or a lawyer, but I honestly can't think of anyone else I'd rather see her with. Yeap a recovering addict/ alcoholic. I wanted to share this with you all because you guys are like family too. Also I want to give hope to those of you with children who seem like they might not get through their journey. Miricles do happen & I have 2 of them who could be husband & wife.