Welcome Lyralee......I too can relate to the cheating end of the addiction....for me it was after 22 yrs of marriage and it did destroy our marriage .... I dont buy into the theory that alcohol made him cheat - I think that no matter what they still have a choice and when it came right down to it....they made BAD choices....and they know what they did and they knew what the turn out would eventually be. And they didnt care at all. They may be embarassed but thats about it.