Asking why,
I have to say as I read through this post I was laughing. Why, cause I for almost 4 years didnt drink because of my alcoholic husband. For a time I decided alcohol was the enemy.
After much clarification alcohol is not my enemy and 1 or 2 drinks does help me relax. So after abstaining and always being responsibly while my AH partied his butt off, Ive taken on a different approach. I now, if he starts by bringing it around, I drink responsibly at the Same time. I am however, even more careful about my actions at the time, but hey Im more likely to fly into a rage and control act if Im changing my life for him.
The result, he no longer drinks around me, as a matter of fact the last time he brought a bottle home and I saw it hidden, I said, you gotta share, he was more upset about sharing that he now brings nothing around me