Originally Posted by
cinderellawkids 
These speaks to me, as I dont act happy many times at home, cause Im afraid he'll think everythings okay. Who am I fooling, myself, he knows everything isnt okay, he's unhappiest of us all. So in spirit of that, today Im gonna be pleasant and happy no matter what comes my way
This reminded me so much of those days of "I'll show him" Since you really can't wop them upside the head - then I'll make everyone miserable with my negativity, anger and stubborn silence.
Today, I know that regardless of my emotions or feelings about the A's actions, I can be happy, joyous and free. I will have sad days, days when I feel angry, upset and lonely. But I don't have to let that rule my entire life or household.
Doesn't mean I don't use the tools of the program to process my emotions, but I just don't use those emotions to "get" at anybody.
Great share, Cindi - glad you are able to do what is best for you to help you live your life regardless of his actions.