this is something that takes pratice,pratice ,pratice. i feel as if i wasted so much trying to take care of someone else. i gave my life, energy, money everything i had trying to take care of others,it was all in vain.today the most important person is me. i feel selfish saying that but the true fact is nothing i do for them is helping them. i have the peace today that i am happy & nobody can give me peace but myself.thanks for this post. it reminds me i am on the right track.