Do I feel overwhelmed, out of control? Maybe I need to journey back to the first of the Twelve Steps.
When I feel the codependent crazies sneaking in, I have learned to stop in my tracks and decide if it is a "reaction" to something overwhich I am powerless. It usually is. That's when and why taking it back to Step One helps..."I admitted I was powerless over____and my life had become unmanageable."
This helps me stay grounded, this helps me recognize clearly what is mine to own and what is not. Taking care of myself is taking care of my feelings, my actions and my recovery. What anyone else is doing/saying/thinking is no longer my business.
Hugs