Love this.
Detaching is a difficult concept for me.
I still thought that I needed something from THAT relationship to sustain me- or to "right" me -- a love I needed to make me feel whole.
Slowly beginning to see that this is distortion and that accepting and loving myself is what must come first and foremost but BOY OH BOY is this a fight that will be hard one. In a book I am currently reading titled, "healing your aloneness" there is a passage that says - "If I am not actively loving and accepting myself every day than I am not doing what I need to do to take care of myself" - this is such a difficult concept.
For me, so much of my love was from external sources- the love INSIDE of me didn't seem real- seemed forced and artificial. Cultivating something real and unconditional is difficult.
Also, the concept of "letting go" tests me constantly.
There is a tremendous amount of energy that goes into worrying, obsessing and futurizing and when I am not doing that i am beating myself up for not being x, y or z so that I wouldn't NEED to worry about all the uncontrollables.
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