He's trying to control you, your access to people and your life. Control freaks come in all sorts of flavors, with and without alcoholism.
You hurt his feelings because you were doing something nice for someone else? Tough! Good lord, it didn't affect him in anyway whatstoever. All he wants is to control you and make you feel guilt for something you shouldn't feel guilty about.
Why do you feel this way? Well, only you can figure that out. But if it were me, I'd be hearing the warning bells about someone wanting to control and isolate me.