Originally Posted by
FormerDoormat 
I wish I could block these feelings out, but they keep resurfacing again and again.
I know the feeling. I've found I have to go through the same feelings over and over again until they're done. However long it takes is as long as I need to go through it.
Does this man know about Richard and what he meant to you? The reason I ask is if he doesn't know, it might be a good idea to let him know upfront just how you are feeling about things right now and you're not wanting to get involved in anything so soon. Letting him know that male friendships right now are a little tough for you too might not be a bad idea. That way, you will have been perfectly clear with him, and, he won't 'misinterpret' anything the wrong way because you will have been honest with him from the start. Hopefully that will help you to reduce your stress so maybe you can relax a little and enjoy yourself...I hope!!! (((Jill)))