Lost, I so know what you mean! Someone here at SR about threw me into a tailspin when they asked me what my favorite color was! I finally set down and made myself write out what I wanted and didn't want out of my marriage, my life, etc. It sounds crazy, but I wrote it afraid! And in a sense it was freeing.
And there were many times in the last few months were I had to get that list out and read and reread to remind myself that I had a plan and a goal. And yep, sometimes looking at that list was so hard because I felt (and somedays still do) that I'm so far from where I want to be and don't seem to be getting any closer to my goal.
But then I remember...baby steps!
It doesn't matter how you get to your happy place, just get there!!