I do what seems right for me at the time and try to stay out of the shoulds of others. What works for me may not work for you. At the beginning I was very, very protective of myself. I can imagine if that meant staying away for a while I would have done that. I didn't need to, but I did do whatever I needed to do to heal.
An analogy for me would be, would I say to a recovering alcoholic, hey start hanging around with your drinking buddies and go to bars because they're always going to be there? Early recovery is not the time to hear "buck up."
Take what you like and leave the rest.
Take care of you.