How to get adult son into wilderness program
Hi. I'm new to this site.
Our college-age son is clearly an alcoholic, probably addicted to other stuff, we don't know. Because of the accursed FERSA laws about confidentiality it took us most of a year to figure this out for sure. He'll be 22 next month. He has been kicked out of his dorm and must come home within 10 days (or do God knows what...)
He has been put on forced medical leave from his college, and the psychiatrist we paid for him to see (in order to try to figure out what was happening) has advised us to give him an impossible ultimatum: If you want to come home get a job within 2-3 days, submit to drug testing etc. etc., allow us to enroll you in a wilderness rehab program, or walk.
This sounds like fairly good advice. We are inclined to take it. (Our daughter has been turned around by a similar program, but she was younger.) But how can you get an adult "child" to go to such a program? Any advice, anyone?
I know I may sound heartless but I also believe in tough love. Any advice welcome.