((((((((Susan))))))))))
You kinda remind me of my sister and all that she goes through with her as.
He's been homeless for a long while and recently, his gf and mother of his son, was picked up and locked back up again. I don't know the what fors'.
Anyway, my sister is raising their son. He's 5 and his name is Gage.
My sister is 54 and not in very good health. (carpal tunnel)
She called me yesterday to tell me that she saw on the news that a homeless man's body was found by the river recently and she is convinced that it is her son.
I talked her "down" from her thinking and reassured her over and over that there is nothing she can do if something like this happens to her son.
That she needs to take care of herself and her grandson and not make herself sick over the fact that her as is "out there".
I feel horrible for her. I don't know how I would react if my son were living in the streets of a big metropolitan city and I only heard from him every so often.
I have given her literature, directed her to naranon meetings, printed out lots of
info from here and shared it with her. She has a hard time with it daily.
I have to tell you the same. There is nothing you can do until he/she is ready.
You have to focus on yourself and child you are raising for him/her.
They need you more. So you have to be there for them.
What would happen to this child if something were to happen to you?
Back to foster care? A ward of the state?
Is that what you want? Of course not.
So you have to let go of your addict and start "helping" you.
I love ya, Susan. I feel for you and pray for you daily.
There are no answers of why they relapse. Just know that she is "learning" more each time it happens. She knows what she needs to do. Now she just has to gather the strength and fight.
Please take care of you, sweetie.
All said with love and understanding,
Linda