Egad... that advice would have been awful helpful to me 20 years ago.
But I got it when I got it... and not one minute before.
My mistake was believing to be DIFFERENT from my parents, I had to be "perfect". I put an awful lot of pressure on my poor kids... but since I've gotten into Alanon, we've done a lot of talking - and they are beginning to be adult enough themselves to understand the reasons behind some of my crazy behaviors.
I didn't do it perfect... and today I know that is ok.
I hope you find some meetings - they can make SUCH a difference.
I wish you the best.